The Tolerance Myth?
- What is it that we should tolerate?
- Should we tolerate someone else’s version of Good?
- Should we tolerate someone else’s version of Good, even when we believe it to be Evil?
- Who should we tolerate? Everyone?
- Should we tolerate those who don’t tolerate Evil?
- Should we tolerate those who DO tolerate Evil?
- Should we tolerate those who don’t tolerate others?
- If indeed I don’t tolerate those who don’t tolerate others, does that make me intolerant? Have I become what I despise?
- If I DO tolerate those who don’t tolerate others, am I just reinforcing their intolerance by tolerating it?
- If it does make me intolerant, should I expect others to tolerate me in my intolerance?
- Should I even tolerate myself?
Do you see the insanity in this? Just admit it, everyone is intolerant, EVERYONE! Some just don’t like it pointed at them.
Grace trumps tolerance every time. Show grace and respect others but don’t value their opinion over truth.
Be strong and stand up for truth, don’t hide behind tolerance to avoid offending someone, or being offended.
Truth is offensive to those who don’t believe it, and loved by those who do.
Tolerance is good when it’s used as a lubricant to get along in spite of different beliefs, but it’s not to be used to make any or all beliefs equally valid. They are not, otherwise no one would ever be wrong, misunderstood, mistaken about anything.
Refuse to tolerate anything but truth, no matter what it costs you. Then have the wisdom to know when to speak and when not to.
Be patient with those with differing opinions and give grace to those who are offensive to you. If you don’t believe there is a source of universal truth, you just haven’t found it yet, or don’t want to.
Intelligent feedback only, I won’t tolerate stupidity. JK…no really, put your big boy pants on. Don’t come to this table if you can’t tolerate this message.
… to finish that sentence, I hope you suffer, but more importantly I hope you grow your capacity to persevere and overcome that you may appreciate life in the midst of heart ache.
Lately I have been studying the topic of “suffering”. It sure has become more clear to me that we as Americans spend quite a bit of time and effort trying to shield ourselves from difficulty. We go to great lengths sometimes to keep ourselves and our loved ones from hardship.
Unfortunately there are so many people suffering in the world. Some suffer for reasons brought on by their own decisions, some by evil and others simply because we are born into imperfect parishable flesh or at the hands of evil. This makes it challenging to see any redeeming value in our suffering, especially unnecessary suffering. This article is not meant to make light of those people out there going through truly difficult trials. I suspect many of those would appreciate this message.
But what about necessary suffering? Is there such a thing?
I believe that through our lifetime there are different stages of development that suffering is not only beneficial, but necessary for growth that gets you to the next stage. Anyone bent on avoiding suffering will undoubtedly avoid growth and will cease to move through the stages of development. The two go together and are unseparable.
A few benefits to suffering.
- Suffering makes us tougher. Professional athletes didn’t get tough from childhood pillow fights. They beat their bodys and make them stronger and more resiliant. They make suffering part of their daily regimin.
- Suffering helps us appreciate those who suffered before us. It is easy to take for granted that which has been handed to us by previous generations. We owe it to the next generation to leave this place as well as we received it.
- Suffering points out that something is not right and needs to change. When we feel physical pain, anxiety or guilt we experience a certain level of suffering. If we didn’t have this we would continue pushing on toward the source of whatever is causing the problem.
- Suffering produces perserverance and developes a sense of commitment and a vision for victory. When we fail to fully commit to something we will always fall short. If we give ourselves a way out to avoid difficulty we end up paying the full price with a penalty.
- Suffering makes us smarter and wiser. The most successful leaders in history learned from their painful experiences. They got back up, tweeked a couple things and tried again. Each time they learn something not to do.
- Suffering purges the lazy out of you. Sometimes we need a jumpstart to realize how our avoidance of suffering keeps us from getting things done. I don’t like to shovel snow, but when I get out there and start working, it feels pretty good, then I am inspired to something else constructive.
- Suffering is necessary to overcome sin. At least the sin associated with a particular growth stage. Sin often comes from avoiding personal suffering, sometimes at the expense of others. We are more okay with others suffering.
- Suffering helps us relate to the suffering that Christ experienced. We can relate to our savior and know Him in his suffering. We take for granted the price that was paid on our behalf. When we suffer we gain understanding of how necessary it is for a price to be paid in full.
Everything that makes us stronger, smarter, wiser, more powerful and more commited will never happen without a measure of suffering. Suffering needs to be something to seek daily and not to avoid.
A little bit of suffering now prevents a whole lotta suffering later!