…Then Ask Someone Who Knows

In May I posted a blog titled …Then Don’t Do That – A Glance at the Art of Sowing and Reaping. It explores why we do things we know we ought not do, even when we understand the consequences. We talked about how knowing the right thing, or best thing to do isn’t always enough. We need to strip ourselves of all the obstacles that cause us to make excuses and wrong decisions and get to a place of self-transparency (oh, I like that term, I should have used that in the other blog).

But what about those times when the best option isn’t clear? Maybe it’s not enough to know that you need to lose a few lbs, or confront someone about something, or get to some things you’ve been putting off. Maybe you have some understanding of the situation, but you have come to the end of your expertise and just don’t know what the next steps should look like. What do you do? Do you do nothing, or run away? Do you guess and hope? Do you fake it so no one else can see you are clueless?

If you are stuck in a complicated situation and don’t know what to do or how to proceed …Then Ask Someone Who Knows. There is a good chance that someone in your life or even someone not yet in your life has experienced something similar to what you going through and could shed some light on the situation for you.

“If you are stuck in a complicated situation and don’t know what to do or how to proceed …Then Ask Someone Who Knows”

So why, when we find ourselves in difficult situation, do we try to solve many of our own problems ourselves? Why are we so hesitant to seek out advice? These are the questions we will try to tackle in this blog.

Other peoples Blind-spots

Ever notice how clearly we can see other people problems? We spend some time with friends or relatives and after we think “They should really hire a financial adviser” or “see someone” about this or that. You listen to people give you reasons and excuses for doing the things they do and in your head you can’t understand how they could be so dense or what they could possibly be thinking. To you and many others around them the solution is so clear. You wonder why they can’t see what everyone else can see. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how many people tell them something, they just can’t see it because it is a blind-spot, like the back of your head or the place you can’t see from the drivers seat because the mirror is limited and the windows are not 360 degrees.

Your Blind-spot

Well, that person with the big blind-spot is you! It’s also me, and everyone else. We all take our turn being that person, some of us more than others. You see we are all born with a huge blind-spot. Our eyes were created pointing away from us and not toward us. We need something outside of ourselves like a mirror to see what we cannot naturally see in ourselves. We can never completely get rid of our blind-spot, but over time, through many failures and accomplishments and careful instruction we can gain a much clearer perspective on just how much we need other peoples input in our lives.

It is true that generally other people can see your situation from clearer more objective position when provided the facts. Their eyes are pointed toward you. Unlike you they are more able to take personal feelings, prejudices, historical bias’s out of your equation, just because they are not you.

We need others input but we do need to be careful to who we trust with advice. Some people seek out advice, but the problem is that they may be asking the wrong person. When you hang out with fools, the advice you get is going to be foolish.

The Fool

A fool is a person who makes decisions without thinking through the consequences. They typically live their life from one moment to another gratifying their desires with instant solutions doing whatever feels natural to them in the moment. They usually have a wake of broken relationships and lost opportunities following them that they have failed to learn from. It’s one thing to have a history of failed experiences and relational strife, but to continue the same foolish patterns over and over is indeed what defines us as a fool.

“When you hang out with fools the advice you get is going to be foolish.”

When you put a bunch of foolish people in the same environment or community, like crabs in a bucket they pull each other down and keep each other from succeeding feeding the foolish behavior. Most of us grew up with fools all around us. We bought into so many of these foolish ideas without even knowing. Until something from outside comes in to shed some light we will continue to move through life at the bottom of the bucket being held down by people just like us. It doesn’t have to be that way.

The Wise

To be wise means to give careful thought to your ways, to base your thought on knowledge and good judgement. Wisdom doesn’t come by simply thinking right. It comes from experience. There has never been a wise person who did not fail many times over. Wisdom comes from understanding adversity and adversity can only be understood from experiencing failure and learning from it rather than repeating it.
Wisdom is all around us if we just look. Sometimes we get so caught up in dwelling on the problems in life we fail to see the answers staring right at us.

“The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Building Blocks

For every skyscraper or bridge, how many had to fall down before they got it right? The complexity of a modern airplane or automobile is incredible. The engineers didn’t start from scratch, they stood on the shoulders of the great engineers that came before them. They learned what they knew, then took it one step farther. Modern medicine is learning more and more every day about how the body works. They do it by sharing information in Medical Journals and shared research. They learn from the ones that came before them.

I think sometimes we try to reinvent the wheel in our own lives. We get into difficult situations and don’t know what to do so like a pioneer we start trying to figure it out on our own. Sometimes when we can’t figure it out we lose motivation, quit and nothing gets any better. We move forward clinging to a fixed mindset that keeps us in the bottom of the barrel. We need to tap into other resources to maximize our success.

Stuck in your own head

I remember particularly when I was young when I was faced with a stressful situation or a dilemma I didn’t know how to handle I would begin to internalize the problem. I would be at school or work and a stressful problem would monopolize my thoughts and I would find myself zoning out when I was suppose to be focusing. I would sometimes be oblivious to what was going on outside of my head and be fixed on the problem. If someone had offended me my mind began racing trying to put it all together in my brain in such a way that I somehow would escape blame or responsibility. I would have entire conversations in my head about how I was getting the short end of the stick or what I was going to say to my offender or accuser. Sometimes I would just think about how bad the situation is or imaging how bad it will get and how helpless I felt. I think I would get a little obsessed with the moment and allow it to consume me. I was stuck in my own head.

Escape your head!

Here is what I realized about those times. My thoughts were all focused on the problem and not the solution. They were limited to the worries and negative thoughts inside my skull and failed to address the solution which was outside my skull. Over time I learned that in order to be solution minded I needed to get out of my head and into other peoples head. By other peoples head I mean find out what they know, what they have experienced and how they overcame obstacles.  Sometimes just getting a fresh perspective was energizing and helpful.

“Over time I learned that in order to be solution minded I needed to get out of my head and into other peoples head”

When I was the center of my own world I could not escape this self-serving perspective that was going on inside my head. It was all I knew or could know. When I was removed from the center my universe and was rightly replaced by God as the center of my universe a whole new world of knowledge and perspective opened up to me.  I found truth was outside of my own head and much bigger than I ever imagined. I no longer had to figure out or decide or determine how the world worked on my own. My skull no longer provided the boundaries to my problem solving arena.  An age of discovery opened up to me.

The beginning of wisdom is realizing what you do not know. It is coming to the end of your own head and learning how to see the world through the eyes of others and God. Wisdom grows when you see the world and your life through the lenses of scripture and other people and how they see you. When this happens, your knowledge base and experiences to draw from are greatly multiplied and begin to build on each other on a much greater level than the old self-reliant model of thinking.

Be a receiver

If you want to expand your capacity for knowledge and wisdom, tap into other peoples brains and gather from their experiences. Ask someone who knows. Get connected to wise people. This, I believe is the secret to personal growth.

“For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not?”   1 Cor 4:7 NIV

 

 

“Not in My World”

JordiColoradoRecently my family took a vacation to Colorado.  My 11 year old daughter Jordyn brought her good friend with her.  It was a terrific vacation and we got to see nature at its best. I also got to observe first hand a great illustration of human nature at its best. I have to share.

The Storm

One evening while relaxing at our hotel, it began raining and thundering.  The two kids were excited about the weather and wanted to sit outside the hotel room and watch the storm.  The windows were open and I could clearly hear their conversation.  After a little while, I overheard them talking about lightning, and thunder.  They were debating whether light or sound travels faster.  Her friend was telling Jordyn that if you hear thunder and begin counting you can estimate how far away it struck the ground by the amount of time it takes to see the lightning.  I think we have all heard that as kids but the details were slightly different.  Jordyn explained to her that light actually travels faster than sound and that the lightning happens first, then the thunder.  Her response was very funny and made me laugh.  She said “not in my world”.  This took my daughter by surprise as she wasn’t sure if her friend was serious or just joking with her.  If she would have said, “I disagree”, or “that’s not what I learned” she wouldn’t have been surprised so much.  She soon found out that her friend was serious.  She continued, “It’s just your opinion that light is faster, I believe that sound is faster, it’s just an opinion.”  I heard Jordyn say “What?! It’s not an opinion, it’s a fact!  It’s science and everybody knows that. They teach us that in school.”  Her friend replied “In my world sound can be faster, and in your world light can be faster.”  Jordyn said “Wait, what? I don’t have my own world, we live in the same world and this is just the way it is for both of us.”

“In my world sound can be faster, and in your world light can be faster.” 

Proud Daddy

I have to admit, hearing this come from my daughter’s mouth was a very proud moment for me as a father.  It was at that moment that I knew that Jordyn at the age of 11 understood the concept of absolute truth.  That is pretty remarkable for a young child.  Most adults in our current culture don’t have this clear of an understanding of truth.  Unfortunately the idea of a personal world (relativism) is actually embraced more than absolute truth in this day and age.  On the surface her idea concerning her personal world seems harmless and at this age it may be, but what happens when she grows up with this same concept directing her decision making process, or what if this truly becomes her discernment compass? She will have no solid foundation or reference point for establishing what is real. There will be no organized shelving in the mind to organize ideas, and no way to sort out good thoughts from bad thoughts.  It will be like building your house on the sand.

Objective Truth (Universal Fact)

If you have spent much time talking with people that continue to experience repeated personal crisis in their relationships, struggle with truthfulness or have bounce back and forth between polarizing extremes you know how irrational people can be when stuck in their own world ignoring objective reality.  If you don’t know anyone like that, you may be one of them.

The simplest definition of reality is the way things really are, apart from any person’s opinion or perspective.  It’s our external existence that we share with everyone else regardless of what we think or know in our own mind. This is also called objective truth.

“…reality is the way things really are, apart from any person’s opinion or perspective”.

An example of objective truth; “McDonalds is the largest restaurant chain in the world”.  This is not true because it lines up with my subjective opinion; it’s true because it lines up with reality or objective truth even if someone else doesn’t believe that to be true.

Subjective Truth (Personal Opinion)

There is another kind of truth called subjective truth.  This kind of truth is personalized.  It doesn’t necessarily live in the common area with other people nor does it need to agree with anyone else.  An example of subjective truth would be If I were to say “Papa Murphys pizza is my favorite food in the whole world”.   If I truly believe that and make that proclamation, it is true, regardless of what anyone else thinks. After all it is true that I think that.  However, once I cross the line of subjectivity and make a universal statement and say “Papa Murphy’s is the best food in the whole world, period!”  I now am treading into crowded waters stepping on other people’s toes, valuing my opinion above others.  I have just opened up the floodgates for all of those non-pizza lovers to disagree with me and tell me I am wrong.  I may even hear them quote statistics about food consumption or surveys about food preference showing me that I am wrong.

These are two seemingly similar statements with entirely different meanings and connotations.  It’s like saying “in my world, Papa Murphy’s pizza is the best and no one can tell me otherwise about my world”.  True, but if I make that proclamation and apply it to the whole world, I am saying everyone else is wrong.  I then just look biased and ignorant and people will start to devalue my opinions. To make a statement like that I need to make sure it is objectively true and not just my personal subjective opinion otherwise I should rephrase my statement to qualify it as my opinion.

We need to be sure what we say is being applied correctly to the proper kind of truth. Other people aren’t going to live in your world, so if you want to connect with people you are going to need to enter the common world, otherwise known as reality. In our business we call it pulling your head out of the cheese. It’s seeing the world from a larger common picture and not just projecting our immediate subjective experiences onto the whole world.

6 Blind men and an elephant

There is a pretty popular illustration about 6 blind men and an elephant that depicts this idea pretty well.  It is about 6 blind men all touching an elephant giving their opinion of what an elephant is.  The first blind man touches the elephant’s massive leg and says “In my world, an elephant is like a tall cedar tree.  That is what an elephant is.”  The second blind man touches the elephant’s ear and says “In my world, an elephant is like a big fan. That is what an elephant is.”  The third touches the elephants tusk and says “it’s like a sharp spear. That is what an elephant is.”  The forth touches the tail and say’s “an elephant is a rope”, the fifth touches the trunk, “an elephant is a big hose” and the sixth touches the elephants side and says “An elephant is just a big soft wall, in my world”.

The elephant represents reality as a whole as we the readers see it objectively because we know the whole story and are not limited by lack of sight.  Each part of the elephant represents one of the blind men’s individual, subjective experiences.  If each of these blind men all really believe their observations and that the truth is limited to just what they personally observed, they are missing a much bigger picture of what an elephant is.  How much more are we capable of missing the truth about our world if we just limit our opinion of truth to what we have experienced or choose to believe?

In this illustration the blind men are blind to the bigger picture and this is the core of their limitation.  In our world, we are blind to the big picture as well.  The different is the 6 blind men are not choosing to be blind. Sometimes we are capable of seeing the big picture but our pride or lack of vision keeps us choosing to stay in the dark. Ignorance is bliss.

I can think of so many times in my life when I hold onto a stubborn opinion or belief that I refuse to let go of not because I am truly blind or limited in my ability to understand, but choose to look the other way in favor of what I want to believe. I choose my blindness.  Sometimes I do this because I have something to lose by opening my eyes, and other times I just don’t want to find out or admit I was wrong. Because I know this about myself, I am able to identify this tendency much sooner than I did when I was younger.

Entitlement vs. Responsibility

One of the most irresponsible clichés I have heard is “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion”.  It’s not that it’s not a true statement, but what most people mean when they say this is that everyone should have the right to say what they think without anyone disagreeing with them or telling them they are wrong.  One opinion is just as valid or equally correct as another.  When applying this to subjective truth, it is 100% correct.  I don’t have the right to tell someone what their favorite food is, and no one can tell me that Papa Murphy’s pizza is not my favorite.

When discussing objective truth or common reality we are not entitled to determine individually what is true. It is our responsibility to discover individually and corporately what is true and lines up with reality.  Science (in its purest form) is a tool that helps us do this very well, until someone pulls it into their own personal world and uses it to prove that an elephant is just a rope (Evolution vs. Creation).

“we are not entitled to determine individually what is true. It is our responsibility to discover individually and corporately what is true and lines up with reality”.

When we seek to discover truth we line our thinking with reality , we remove obsticles that hinder true understanding.  When we bypass reality and grab ahold of truth as we want to see it we are taking a very costly shortcut that robs us of credibility and integrity. We show ourselves to be foolish.

Perception is not always reality

You have probably heard the statement “perception is reality”.  This is just not true. You are welcome to your own opinion on the color of my house of which you may or may not have seen, but your opinion can not be more correct than the actual color of the house.  Your opinion of my tan house being blue doesn’t make it blue, or any less tan.  If I say its one color and you say it’s another, we can’t both be right, nor do we both have the right to claim equal correctness.

The law of non-contradiction says A cannot equal none-A.   Light cannot be faster than sound, and sound faster than light in the same setting. One or the otherz  has to be true. Perception, on the other hand can vary greatly.  Everyone has the right to be wrong if they choose, or even if they don’t choose, and can only be right if it lines up with reality, not just because they say so or believe so.  What good is being right if it’s just pretend?

“What good is being right if it’s just pretend?”

Self Deception

If you are stuck in your own world you may find it very challenging to connect with others with any depth. When commitment to common truth is compromised, getting on the same page will prove difficult.  You will find yourself at odds with people or isolated from people because of your inability to connect or feel a common bond.  You may become a fault finder, live above accountability, and easily irritated when others point out objective truth to you. You may make excuses for your shortcomings or blame others for your miscues, because they are not miscues in your world.  It’s much easier to adjust, stretch, or omit the truth when you are not grounded, than it is to face reality. This is what adults do when they grow up in their own separate world. The steaks are much higher as adults than when it was when we were kids.

If it seems like you are always swimming upstream or running into the wind, if your relationships always self destruct and people continue to let you down, it may be time for you to examine your personal world.  It may be that you are so engrossed in your world that reality is passing you by going the other direction. It could be that your house is built on sand instead of a rock.

Alignment

People who align their minds and live according to reality rather than try to change or claim their own reality tend to live more at peace with themselves, and others.  Truth seekers live in harmony with other truth seekers. It’s a beautiful thing to be part of a group of people seeking to learn more about the world we share, to learn more about each other and what makes us tick. Unity and harmony can only be achieved by individuals moving and growing in unison going the same direction.  The individuals cannot individually determine that direction based on their own world.  They will all have different perceptions.

Truth is what provides the vision that gives all of us something to march toward. It provides a common purpose that connects us and moves us to do something for a bigger cause than simply having a better personal world.

When we step out of our own personal world, our blinders begin to come off and we start to see reality in all its glory. Our own personal wellbeing doesn’t seem as important to defend.  Community and connectedness becomes more of a priority.  Take a look at this community of people. They left their own personal worlds behind to live for a bigger reality.

Community

Act 2:42-47 …and they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need.  And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.

“And all who believed were together and had all things in common”

Act 4:11-12  This Jesus is the stone that was rejected by you, the builders, which has become the cornerstone.  And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.”

Act 4:32-37 …now the full number of those who believed were of one heart and soul, and no one said that any of the things that belonged to him was his own, but they had everything in common. And with great power the apostles were giving their testimony to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and great grace was upon them all. There was not a needy person among them, for as many as were owners of lands or houses sold them and brought the proceeds of what was sold  and laid it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to each as any had need. Thus Joseph, who was also called by the apostles Barnabas (which means son of encouragement), a Levite, a native of Cyprus, sold a field that belonged to him and brought the money and laid it at the apostles’ feet.

“…but they had everything in common”

You can’t have community without having reality in common. We can’t make up our own way.  If you are one who believes what you want to believe, lives by your own standards and on your own terms (in your own world), pull your head out of your “own world” and join the community of truth seekers. I dare you!  You thought I was going to say “butt” didn’t you?

… Then Don’t Do That

A Glance at the Law of Sowing and Reaping

Henny Youngman told a joke about the guy that goes to the doctor and says “Doctor, it hurts when I do this”, and the Doctor says “then don’t do that”.

“…then don’t do that!”

Who’s more out of touch, the guy over-thinking the problem who doesn’t realize that a simple action will solve his problem, or the doctor who is too simple minded to understand that the problem is more complicated than what he observes at first glance? That joke is kind of funny, but either way it illustrates how easily we can miss the mark sometimes when trying to solve a problem without seeing the bigger picture.

Out of touch

I recall a Saturday Night Live skit called Don’t Buy Stuff You Cannot Afford. In this commercial parody, a married couple (Steve Martin, Amy Poehler) are confused by their money woes, so a spokesperson (Chris Parnell) presents them with Don’t Buy Stuff You Cannot Afford, a guide to prevent financial debt. [Season 31, 2006].  They tried debt consolidation, taking out loans to cover their debt, the spokesperson came up with a unique new program for managing your debt.  It’s called Don’t Buy Stuff You Cannot Afford.  They seem a bit perplexed at the idea that if you don’t have any money you should not buy anything. When you open the cover, the first page just says: Don’t Buy Stuff You Cannot Afford.

“Don’t Buy Stuff You Cannot Afford.”

We laugh, but we all have silly thoughts like this from time to time. The “then don’t do that” plan is sometimes an overlooked solution for many problems in people’s lives.  Here are a few scenarios that we could benefit from this simple advice:

“Whenever I hang out with this person I get into trouble” – Then don’t do that!

“I always stuff myself and feel miserable when I go to a buffet” – Then don’t do that!

“Even when I scream at my kids they don’t listen to me” – Then don’t do that!

“When I watch too much TV I get depressed”- Then don’t do that!

There are other variations of this principle as well, such as the “Then do it!” response.

“I should take a class to sharpen my skills” – “Then do it!”

“I always feel good when I am regularly getting exercise” “Then do it!”

“I know I should break up with him…” – “Then do it!”

“I need to start saving more money” – “Then do it!”

In other words, stop doing things you know you aren’t suppose to do and get on with doing what you are suppose to be doing! 

Stop talking and take action!

Appitites

As fallen people we are the masters of self-deceit.  We have an agenda of what we want or how we want things to be.  Sometimes our appitites are just more important to us than  our future hopes.  

We are willing to make some changes or even give up things to solve a problem as long as it doesn’t threaten what is most important to us.  We would like life in abundance down the road, instead we choose life on our terms, now.

“We are willing to make some changes or even give up things to solve a problem as long as it doesn’t threaten what is most important to us.”

For example, the couple in the Saturday Night Live skit were willing to consider a program to help them get out of debt, but the idea of not spending money they did not have was too big of a compromise.  They needed another way that doesn’t prohibit there spending freedoms.

Addiction

I have struggled with a food addiction for much of my life and have experienced this first hand.  I am willing to work towards losing weight as long as I can still eat when I am hungry or continue to eat certain foods that are not good for me. I may tell myself I am willing but then I prove myself wrong, (self-deceit).  I find myself compromising because I am not willing to follow the “then don’t do that!” advice. And somehow I wonder why I struggle to get to my ideal weight. Whenever I have had success it was because an outside source (like my doctor) helped me see what my future will look like if I don’t change my habits. Sometimes that not even enough.  I need to own the results for the future, now.

It’s amazing how many weight loss programs there are out there. It is a much bigger industry then it really should be.  They rely on people not having the discipline to follow the simple “then don’t do that” plan.  

Everyone is looking for the magic pill to come out that will enable them to lose weight without going through the motions of exercising and eating right.  We all know this, yet we continue our search for the miracle cure.  

I want to write a one page book and title it 2 Simple Steps to Losing Weight.  When you turn the page it says, 1. Exercise every day for 20 minutes 2. Eat only healthy food in moderation. That’s it. Don’t over think it. Don’t look for a pill or special herbs or a machine that tilts and turns and vibrates.  Just decide if that is what you want, then do those two things.

The dreaded “but” statement.

Whenever we get a slight glimpse of a clear honest assessment of how we should proceed we turn right around and tell ourselves a lie that negates our good thought.  Our “I should…” or “I shouldn’t…”statements too often are followed by the dreaded “but” statement.

“I know I should go to the gym today… but, I have too much to do today”

“I know I should get up and do something today… but, I’m too tired”

“I know I shouldn’t have that pie… but, it’s sooo good”

“I know I shouldn’t let him treat me that way… but, I love him.”

Most of the time when we compromise how we spend our time it is because we choose the certain benefits of now, over the uncertain benefits of later.

“Enjoy life. Think of all the women who passed up dessert on the Titanic.”

The message of instant gratification has been pounded into our brain by commercialism and industry. It has become a very steep uphill battle for potential consumers to choose future benefits over the comfort of the here and now.  We indulge in things we know will harm us and do it with little conviction or thought of cause and effect.

“When all of your wishes are granted, many of your dreams will be destroyed.”― Marilyn Manson (a man of many granted wishes and destroyed dreams)

Sowing and Reaping

In the natural world the law of cause and effect tells us that for every cause or action there is an effect that is triggered.  For every effect there was something that caused it.  Things don’t just happen randomly or get that way for no reason.  If we define reality simply as “the way things really are”, we can conclude everything got that way because of all of the things that have happened up to this point to cause it to be that way.

Another variation of the law of cause and effect is the law of sowing and reaping.  While the law of cause and effect deals with all of reality, the law of sowing and reaping hones in on our intentions, and how our decisions effect future outcomes.

Consequences

The law of sowing and reaping says that when we do something or don’t do something there is a consequence that follows.  If you decide to purchase a new I-Phone 15 on a credit card to pay later, YOU REALLY HAVE TO PAY LATER.  If you don’t you may face financial or legal penalties that make that purchase much more costly than the original purchase.  

The law of sowing and reaping effects every decision we make and is unbiased.  It doesn’t care about our intentions, our track record or what other people think.  It is an unmovable force that either works for us or against us, depending on if we adhere to the law of cause and affect, or call its bluff.

Wisdom of vision

The wisest people in the world seem to have something in common.  They see the future and the present at the same time.  It’s like they have a portal into the future and can see how their current decisions will affect their future circumstances. They somehow have been able to harness a clear image of what delayed gratification will bring them.  l know it’s not entirely accurate or true with all wise people.  You can’t deny that when you hear a story of someone who has reached extraordinary levels of success, it’s evident  how their early decisions directly determined their growth that led to their inevitable success.  They may not have always known what they would reap from their hard work and careful choices, but they knew they were working toward something big. They also put guardrails in place to keep them safe until they get there.

“Success is a planned outcome, not an accident. Success and mediocrity are both absolutely predictable because they follow the natural and immutable law of sowing and reaping. Simply stated, if you want to reap more rewards, you must sow more service, contribution, and value. That is the no-nonsense formula. Some of God’s blessings have prerequisites! Success in life is not based on need but on seed. So you’ve got to become good at either planting in the springtime or begging in the fall.”

― Tommy Newberry, Success Is Not an Accident

“We never plan to mess up our l ives, but unfortunately, we never plan not to. When making decisions, we should always ask ourselves, In light of my past experiences, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?” ― Andy Stanley –The Best Question Ever

I believe that an honest glimpse into the future would be worth more than gold.  I wonder how different we would make decisions if we could look ahead and see the outcome of our decisions at the same time we make them.  That will never be entirely possible, however, the law of cause and effect should point us in the right direction and help us realize the future is much more predictable than we think, if we just look ahead so we can get rid of the “but”.